A big reason I post on social media about things we are doing is because I want my child to see what is happening in my life as I dont have direct contact. I want her to see that I am here for her. I always have been and always will be...
I also have tried to keep updated on her life as much as possible in any way I can. I have regular meetings with school/college and other contacts.
She is 18 tomorrow!!! A huge landmark!
But as you know, 18 is not that magical age where an alienated child can 'choose'... Alienated children are conditioned to be apart and even hate or fear the parent they have been alienated from so I might have to face that.
The positive is that the family courts can no longer be used to facilitate this behaviour any further.
There may be a lot of repair work to do. It is very difficult (almost impossible) to get any support from ANY organisation to assist with a reunification process.
I, like many other affected parents have to just keep on reaching out but trying never to lose hope
As an alienated parent I find the best way for me to cope with the situation celebrate her birthday as best I can in her absence..
As we have every year since she was retained from any contact (well over a decade ago), we have gathered cards and gifts for the day that we are reunited.. Hopefully that will be soon!
I have also sent cards and gifts again to the address I THINK she has moved to but do not know for certain. No gifts throughout the years since she was taken again have ever been acknowledged.
Tomorrow, as I do every year , I will be trying to celebrate her birthday with cake of course... It is tough... it really is... and I am sure there will once again be tears...
However, I keep the hope that she is of the age now where she will reach out to her paternal family who love and miss her wholeheartedly. Sadly, her grandmother, won't get the opportunity to reunite with her as she passed away in 2015 but she has cousins, Aunts and Uncles who would love to be reunited.
I hope Aleyah sees all of the messages, posts and realises that I am here for her. I always have been... I ALWAYS will be... and I know that NONE of this is her fault.
I hope that her maternal family get the help they need to take the cold heartedness out of their lives and promote her loving relationship with her paternal family who miss her so much.
They need to put an end to this alienating behaviour which they will know has been abusive not only to her paternal family but to Aleyah also.
I always wonder if they have any guilt, remorse or regret but surely, if they did, this would have been resolved by now. 😪
I hope she has a wonderful day... I am so so proud of her and everything she has achieved so far in her life. I love and miss her wholeheartedly.
One more day closer!!!!!
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