The family court systems are so very broken..
We know this and yes, it is so unfair and as anybody who has gone through this nightmare will know, there is very little or no deterrent or accountability for the actions of the other parent and their representation
Alienation, abduction, retention, false allegations, frustration of contact seems to be more common than not in ongoing cases and I agree that not enough is being done to tackle this very serious problem..
The "law" is actually being used and abused to achieve an objective.. total "parentectomy"...
Having trying for over 13 years to reunite with my child and trying to stay positive in the process, I can say that if at all possible, try to resolve matters OUT of the court room..
It can often make the situation much worse than you can imagine when first appearing..
You enter as a concerned and loving parent looking for help to reunite with your child but instead it can often label you as a risk and have to jump through hoop after hoop to make any progress whatsoever...
The longer it goes on, the more that people around you accept that this is the way it is..
It gets to the point where you have no mechanism to contest any judgements no matter what devious and malicious means were used to obtain them..
Who are the winners? the parents?? the family?? the children?? absolutely not.. none of them..
The winners in these situations are ONLY legal and childcare "professionals".. I wish I could believe they can be effective but unfortunately, given my experience and the experiences of many other parents I have spoken with over the past decade, I don't...
I really do wish parents the very best in these situations but please, if you choose or are forced to enter the family court circus..
be prepared for a struggle..
be prepared to be treated unfairly..
be prepared to be disappointed and disillusioned in the current system...
be prepared for people you hope to be there to dig their heads in the sand...
be prepared for emotional trauma...
Whether in court proceedings or not, NEVER give up on the person that matters the most.. your child! ..
Whether it is tomorrow, or much later in the future, they will need you and will, I am sure, want to see that you have NEVER given up..
They will want to see that it is not you that is trying to alienate your child...but it IS you that continues to do everything you can to be involved in their life... however you can!
I hope this message is taken as it is intended..
The family courts need to be a very LAST resort.. NOT the first... The way the system is right now it is a complete lottery.. it is soul destroying..
Our children NEED us to be strong no matter what obstacles are put in front of us..
Sending love and best wishes to all who are having to go through this..
Of course I am also reaching out as I always have to my wonderful, beautiful, talented daughter who will be turning 18 in August...
I love you.... I always have... I always will
ONE DAY CLOSER!!!! XXX
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