2020 Christmas Message

Another Xmas come and gone.. Once again, it hasn't been easy but thank you so much to all close to me who made a difficult time of year as enjoyable as was possible... In particular, Michelle, who really is my rock.

Thanks also to family and friends who I really do appreciate the messages of support and for the cards that include Aleyah even though she has been absent now for over 10 years.. I keep every single message for her so she will see for herself how much she is loved and missed xxxx

I hope my daughter Aleyah had a wonderful day despite the covid restrictions... I hope with all of my heart that 2021 will be our year to be reunited...

I pray that abducting/alienating parents (and families) are given a conscience and realise how wrong their behaviour is and put a stop to it for their children's sake!!

Thoughts with all good parents who are so wrongfully alienated and/or restricted from being with their children and of course to the children who are wrongfully stopped from being with a parent and one side of their family..

This madness won't go on forever.. Stay strong and don't be beaten.. whether it's tomorrow, in the near future or further in time, your children will need you so don't give up!

ALWAYS loving you Aleyah... FOREVER your Dad.. One more day closer xx

Best Wishes for Xmas and the new year

Wishing everybody a happy & wonderful Christmas / holiday season. Im sure it has been such a difficult year for some.. Let us hope that 2021 is as kind as possible to us all.

For those who are parents who are not able to see their children through parental child abduction/parental alienation/retention, my heart goes out to you and empathise with the hurt that you will undoubtedly be feeling.

I plead to any alienating parents and their families to please PUT YOUR CHILDREN FIRST and stop this!!.

#ParentalChildAbduction #parentalalienation #parentalalienationawareness

The best Christmas present you could give to your child is to allow them to love and be loved by BOTH parents without frustrating any contact, gifts etc and/or without trying to poison their minds against a parent that loves them wholeheartedly. It is NEVER too late to change these behaviours.

Also, I have so much thought for those who are suffering the bereavement of their children or any family member through illness or accident.

It must be such a very traumatic time and must hurt so much in particular on these key dates.

Please stay strong and try to enjoy the season as much as possible and contact the people around you that are important in your life.

This year is going to be additionally harder with Covid restrictions but please... Dont be alone... If any of my friends and contacts need to chat, My mobile / contact details are:

0034 622 925 754

s.monkdalton@gmail.com

If you know anybody that is going through a difficult time or is on their own, check in on them. Involve them where you can - even if this year, it might have to be remotely..

These holidays are a celebration but also additionally difficult for some especially during these restrictive times.

If you have your children / grandchildren with you this year, treasure every single moment with them. They will never be this age again.. You are very blessed..xx

As always, thank you to all who have stayed the distance, inspired me and helped me to stay focused and positive when I have needed it most.

Also to the crazy loons I call friends who keep me smiling (and for putting up with my really bad jokes).

In particular, I must thank Michelle for the love, support and belief she always has in me .. love ya loads!!!!

I really can't put into words how much I appreciate you all. I'm blessed to have some amazing people around me and I never take that for granted

Wishing my own daughter Aleyah a wonderful Christmas and pray that we are reunited very soon

www.aleyah-monk-dalton.com

Always loving you... Forever your dad.. One More Day Closer!! xx

Parental Alienation Awareness Charity (1187738)

We have set up the JustGiving page for the main charity that we will be supporting on our cycle

Parental Alienation Awareness (1187738)

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/tandemacrossborders-paa

The aims of the Parental Alienation Awareness Charity are to raise awareness, educate, & campaign against this form of
child abuse that needlessly disconnects children, parents, & their
extended families.  

www.paawareness.co.uk

info@paawareness.co.uk

Parental Alienation Awareness Registered charity number 1187738

Through this cycle, we would like to try to raise enough funding to help to produce and distribute awareness information in relation to the effects of parental alienation on children and families. Our target for this is £2,000

Videos of Aleyah's 15th Birthday in August

 It was Aleyah's birthday on 25th August (2020). She is now 15 !!

We put together a couple of videos for her. I hope she likes them

 

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Aleyah... If you are reading this, know that you are ALWAYS in my heart and in my mind.
Reach out to me when you can. I am extremely sad that the extreme tactics that were used to keep us apart but we have time in the future to look forward to.

If you feel cautious because of untruths that might have been told, please, look at the comments of the plea page and who some of the comments are from. They were very close friends of your Granny and Grandad.

http://www.aleyah-monk-dalton.com/plea-to-maternal-family.html

Some were neighbours who stepped away because they did not agree with what was happening...

Please seek your own truths and be in touch when you are ready.

I miss you so much

ALWAYS loving you. Forever your dad

Mobile: 0034 622 925 754

email: s.monkdalton@gmail.com

Shani Ormiston Concert - 2nd Oct - Torrevieja

Our good friend Shani is playing an acoustic concert at Torrevieja on 2nd to present her new EP "Bunker"..

Please support her if you can..

Shani is an extremely talented bi-lingual singer/songwriter from Torrevieja. I have placed links to some of her music below. I am sure you will agree that this lady has real talent..

Talent like this with original music really need supporting!

On a personal note, she and her husband Carlos and her father Andy Ormiston have been THE best friends to us and have helped to support us in various events including those for the Reunite International Child Abduction Centre Charity.

There is a limited capacity of 300 for this event due to Covid-19 restrictions so get your tickets soon. Only €7

tickets available on her website www.shaniormiston.com

Aleyah's 15th birthday

Happy birthday to my beautiful daughter Aleyah. She will be 15 tomorrow !! (25th Aug)

Thank you to those family members and friends who have sent messages, cards etc again (as every year) ... It really means a so much to me that her birthday is remembered and acknowledged and it will to Aleyah I am sure.. Even if she might not be able to show that right now xxxx

As we do every year, we will still try to "celebrate" her birthday in her absence and go to a few places she loved to go to when she was home such as Rio Safari and the Torrevieja boat. And of course, we will have cake..

We put all gifts and cards in a memory chest for her each special day in the hope that one day she will see them to know that I, and people close to me have never.. and WILL never give up on her...

One day closer!!!

www.aleyah-monk-dalton.com

s.monkdalton@gmail.com
0034 622925754

Xxx

#aleyahmonkdalton #15thbirthday #alwayslovingyou #foreveryourdad #onedaycloser

“Abuse of the family court systems” article

I remember when I wrote this, it got a mixed reception as it was a very sensitive subject to parents affected by parental alienation and parental child abduction and a few comments argued that it is providing an instruction guide for the alienator. I understand totally, as many parents affected by these behaviours can relate closely to a number of points in this article.

If you have NOT been through the family court processes, these points collectively might seem hard to believe.. After all, the courts work in the best interest of the child right?? There is no smoke without fire right?

This article highlights some tactics used in the hope that people can understand how easily the family court systems can be manipulated..

There are no winners in these cases other that the financial gain of legal professionals.. Least of all the child who stands to be separated from one side of their family (who love the child wholeheartedly) for many years, if not for a lifetime.

It can be a cause of psychological damage and even suicide for both the family and child..

Please read the article and comment if you can. Feedback - positive or negative is appreciated.

https://link.medium.com/jRaN0lNhG8

“Abuse of the family court systems” by Steven Monk-Dalton

Shani Ormiston - Bunker CD Project

Hi guys.. Supporting a good friend of ours with this post..

Message from Shani on this link

You are NOT donating here, you are preordering what Shani considers her best work yet. You wont be disappointed.. Lets try to hit her target as soon as possible

Click here to support her project

€10 (Butterfly) - Digital download of Bunker. Your name on booklet of the album.

€20 (Bunker) - CD Bunker signed. Your name on booklet of the album.

€25 (Peony)- CD Bunker signed. Bunker cloth bag. Your name on booklet of the album.

€35 (Hummingbird) - CD Bunker signed. Cool Bunker T-shirt. Your name on booklet of the album.

€50 (Rainbow) - CD Bunker signed. Bunker cloth bag. 2 tickets to the presentation concert. Your name on booklet of the album.

€80 (All of Me) - 2 Bunker CD´s signed. 2 Once Upon a Time CD´s. Single You Gotta Let It Go. Lyrics of the songs for collection. 2 Bunker cloth bags. 2 cool Bunker T-shirts. Your name on booklet of the album

€250 (Wings) - Concert at your home or event (1 1/2 hours). 5 signed Bunker CD´s. Your name on booklet of the album.

€390 (Miracle) - Sponsor a single.

5 signed Bunker CD´s. 25 copies of the single. Your name or business appear a sponsor of one single and videoclip. Also, at the concert held on October 2nd at the Torrevieja Theater I will do some publicity if you’re a business and/or we can "meet and greet" at the backstage.

For us, we are so happy to give our support not only because of the amazing support and friendship she has given to us personally and in charity events etc (parental child abduction / parental alienation) for several years ; but also because she is an extremely talented young lady and we appreciate how difficult is can be to fund the production of new, original music especially in these difficult times.

Links to some of Shani's original songs to date... 

Vertigo

Brave

You Gotta Let It Go

Guerrera 

I Am A Fighter

Lionheart

Thanks 

14th June - Grandparent Alienation Awareness Day

Parent alienation also often has a huge impact on grandparents. More often than not, if a child is alienated and/or refused contact with the parent, contact with the grandparents is also affected or even severed.. This is cruel on the grandparents and the child.

In my daughter's case, 5 years after she was taken, my mother; my daughter's paternal grandmother sadly passed away (2015 a few weeks after returning from our Walk Across Borders - Raising awareness of Parental Abduction & Alienation event)

They absolutely adored each other and now, they can NEVER be reunited.. For them, there is NO one day closer 😢

I commend the Parental Alienation Awareness UK charity for recognising the hurt also inflicted on the grandparents. As well as the alienation of their grandchildren, they also have to worry about the impact on THEIR child which in many cases, must be devastating.. xx

https://facebook.com/events/s/grandparent-alienation-awarene/931201657345051/?ti=cl

The 14th June is recognised as Grandparent Alienation Awareness day.

There are currently 1 million grandparents that are denied access to a loving relationship with their grandchildren in the UK alone

Details of how you can get involved can be found here:

https://spark.adobe.com/page/WkBugl5cWXKz7/

#parentalienationawareness #onedaycloser #endparentalalienation #foreveryourdad #kidsfirst #paawareness #grandparentalienation #grandparentalienationawareness #grandparentalienationawarenessday

s.monkdalton@gmail.com
0034 622 925 754

Parental Alienation - What does it mean to you?

On my social media, I recently posted.... 

You will have seen that this month I have been posting daily  with hashtags about "parental alienation".. 

Could I ask out of my 700+ contacts what your understanding is now about what parental alienation/parental child abduction is and whether you see these as an issue?

Also whether you know any families other than mine that are affected by these issues..

 I want to try to complete a paper/study so ALL comments would be appreciated.. pm me if you want privacy regarding your answers..

I will be extremely interested how many might take a minute or two to send me a response

Thanks again xx

 #parentalalienation #parentalchildabduction
#onedaycloser

I received this amazing response from my wonderful supportive partner Michelle ❤️

I didnt really know that much about parental alienation until I saw what was happening with you. 

Over the years we have been together I have seen the extent you go to daily to be part of Aleyahs life.

I have been to some of your termly visits to the school and its is obvious that the school teachers know exactly what is happening but are powerless to do anything about it.

I have seen the attacks on you for trying to stay involved in her life. Even death threats!

I see how proud you are of her and was with you when you went to see her in the School of Rock musical in London and how hard it was for you to be there as an anonymous face in the crowd.

Also I have seen first hand the tactics that are used to try to erase you from her life. Even trying to change her name and attempting to remove any photographs you have together from social media. 

The effort you have made to raise awareness of parental alienation and parental child abduction with event such as football tournaments, skydive, concerts, the One Day Closer shop, even making the journey on foot between Spain and UK completing a marathon a day for 44 days and the planned cycle which now will happen in 2021. 

Even with everything you are going through, you still take the time to support and listen to other parents who are facing a similar situation. 

Every day I see how much you love and think about Aleyah and would do anything you can to be reunited. I cant wait to see that happen as you have done all of this without reacting to any provocation. 

She should be so proud of you. All you have done is show your love for your daughter.

We have tried to celebrate her birthdays and Christmases in her absence and altbough I can see how much it hurts, you do so with a smile on your face.

Ive spoken to many people who knew Aleyah when she was here with you and they all say the same thing. How much of a dedicated, loving father you are and how dispicable it was the tactics that were used to take her again even after she was abducted and returned back to you through the courts.

Ive even spoken to people who once were friends of the maternal family who are disgusted with the way you have been treated and stepped away from their friendship with them for that reason.

You never give up Steve and I know you never will. Aleyah will be so proud of you once she realises everything you have tried to do. 

I am sure she knows already but while she is still a child, she will still be under pressure and influence of the alienator. Your time will come Steve. I cant wait to meet her 

xxxx

Thank you Michelle.. Your words mean so much xxx

Erasing Family Documentary

Seriously... friends and families of parents and children affected by parental alienation REALLY should take the time to watch this documentary.. Also young adults who were subjected to alienation tactics as a child and even employers who have employees trying to cope with these issues.

Erasing Family Documentary

It might also be and excellent tool for school teachers, child care professionals etc as quite often, the signs of this type of abuse is so clear if you take the effort to look...

You HAVE to have a greater understanding of what parental alienation is to be able to provide support for people that you care about... This explains so much! ... There is a small fee to watch the full video but it really is worth it..

Thank you to everybody who has helped to raise awareness today (and other days).. I realise that there are a lot of other concerns going on in the world at the moment...

I think I can speak for other parents/families here as well as myself when I say how much it means when people SHOW that they care rather than just say it..

One day closer xxxxxx

Watch the video on this link

https://vimeo.com/407570784

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“Abuse of the family court systems”

https://link.medium.com/XaXBgFpaO5

“Understanding Stages of Grief applied to Parents Affected by Parental Child Abduction / Alienation…” 

https://link.medium.com/0TJ5yHtaO5

“It’s Time To Put an End To This” 

https://link.medium.com/Qlt5B4xaO5

“Patterns of Behaviour in the Family Court” 

https://link.medium.com/XXoXSeDaO5

“So Many Questions — So Few Answers” 

https://link.medium.com/OzXNniIaO5

s.monkdalton@gmail.com

0034 622 925 754

#ParentalAlienation #endparentalalienation #parentalchildabduction #paawareness #onedaycloser

Parental Alienation During Isolation - Coronavirus

Sad to hear about so many people being affected by this horrible virus. Life can be so fragile.. 😕

Thoughts also with the many alienated parents including those affected by parental child abduction who are trying to find out ANY info about their children and their welfare. More difficult now they are not in school.

It adds an additional worry in these difficult times. If parents / grandparents REALLY cared about their children, you would think this would be a wake up call.

Stop the alienation... Stop playing God with your childrens lives..

Communicate for the sake of your children.. They have two parents! Being a parent means putting THEM first.. One more day closer.

Steven Monk-Dalton

s.monkdalton@gmail.com

0034 622 925 754

#parentalchildabduction #parentalalienation #coronavirus #onedaycloser #kidsfirst

Father's Day Wishes

Fathers Day here in Spain, Italy and a number of other courtries... 

Happy Father's day to all good dads out there.. Or at least, as happy as it can be with the difficult situation the world is in at the moment..

It really is so difficult and the emotions heighten even more on key dates.. Even more so with what is going on at the moment..

I'm sure many alienated parents, like me, worry about mortality from time to time.. What if something happened to me?

Who would care enough to make sure my daughter is ok and also to make sure she knows how much I have tried for so long to be in her life?

Who would care enough to let her know who I really am.. Not the person her mother has portrayed me to be in order to tactically remove her from home in Spain and erase me and my family from her life?

What if anything happened to our daughter? Would I even be told? I have to play a detective role to find out anything about her.. It is so damn cruel.. Enough is enough.. Imagine how this behaviour might impact our child not only in childhood but also into adulthood!

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Please don't forget that parents who cannot see their children due to abduction and /or alienation ARE still daddies or mummies on these days.

The difference being that it cannot be acknowledged by the children that they love with all of their hearts...

Thoughts with all affected parents, grandparents, families AND of course, their children.... One day closer x

#fathersday #kidsfirst #parentalalienation #parentalchildabduction #onedaycloser