Family Courts - Avoid if possible

The family court systems are so very broken..

 We know this and yes, it is so unfair and as anybody who has gone through this nightmare will know, there is very little or no deterrent or accountability for the actions of the other parent and their representation

Alienation, abduction, retention, false allegations, frustration of contact seems to be more common than not in ongoing cases and I agree that not enough is being done to tackle this very serious problem..

The "law" is actually being used and abused to achieve an objective.. total "parentectomy"...

Having trying for over 13 years to reunite with my child and trying to stay positive in the process, I can say that if at all possible, try to resolve matters OUT of the court room..

It can often make the situation much worse than you can imagine when first appearing..

 You enter as a concerned and loving parent looking for help to reunite with your child but instead it can often label you as a risk and have to jump through hoop after hoop to make any progress whatsoever...

The longer it goes on, the more that people around you accept that this is the way it is..

It gets to the point where you have no mechanism to contest any judgements no matter what devious and malicious means were used to obtain them..

Who are the winners? the parents?? the family?? the children?? absolutely not.. none of them..

The winners in these situations are ONLY legal and childcare "professionals".. I wish I could believe they can be effective but unfortunately, given my experience and the experiences of many other parents I have spoken with over the past decade, I don't... 

I really do wish parents the very best in these situations but please, if you choose or are forced to enter the family court circus..

be prepared for a struggle..

be prepared to be treated unfairly..

be prepared to be disappointed and disillusioned in the current system...

be prepared for people you hope to be there to dig their heads in the sand...

be prepared for emotional trauma...

Whether in court proceedings or not, NEVER give up on the person that matters the most.. your child! ..

Whether it is tomorrow, or much later in the future, they will need you and will, I am sure, want to see that you have NEVER given up..

They will want to see that it is not you that is trying to alienate your child...but it IS you that continues to do everything you can to be involved in their life... however you can! 

I hope this message is taken as it is intended..

The family courts need to be a very LAST resort.. NOT the first... The way the system is right now it is a complete lottery.. it is soul destroying..

Our children NEED us to be strong no matter what obstacles are put in front of us..

Sending love and best wishes to all who are having to go through this.. 

Of course I am also reaching out as I always have to my wonderful, beautiful, talented daughter who will be turning 18 in August...

I love you.... I always have... I always will

ONE DAY CLOSER!!!! XXX

s.monkdalton@gmail.com

0034 622 925 754

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Social Media Posts

I know I am quite active on social media with pics etc and I know that I don't really have to explain why... However, I actually want to because it might help other parents / families affected by parental alienation.

The main reason I post is because I want my daughter to see what is happening in our lives as I do not have the opportunity to speak to her in person.. It is my way to, in some way, keep her updated and to see that I am the same loving dad that she was alienated from and not a broken shell of that person as a result of the tactics that were used (and continue to be used) to keep us apart.

I have had to learn to compartmentise my thoughts to things I can do something about here and now versus things I have to be patient about being able to do.. This is harder than you might imagine.

I hope my daughter sees my posts and will know that I long for us to be reunited and she will be familiar with the places we go and the person/dad that I am.. AND that she is ALWAYS in my mind and in my heart... 

I will continue to do everything I can to keep updated about her day to day life and reach out to her... I hope that sooner, rather than later, she will reach out to me too.

s.monkdalton@gmail.com

0034 622925754

With regard to other parts of my life, I want my daughter to know how happy I am with the most amazing, wonderful, supportive, loving lady Michelle who I love so much... and she also cannot wait to meet her... 

We live in the most beautiful country (to me) and I feel extremely blessed in so many ways..

We also have some wonderful friends who I am so grateful for including those I play football, darts, padel, cycling with... as well as my long term friends who I treasure so much

I pray that my daughter and I will be reunited soon... One day closer! xx